Friendship Futurism Podcast

Friendship Futurism is a podcast about relationships in the 22nd century and beyond. I explore how to build community and strengthen connections in a digitally native world.

Relationships are inherently embodied and physical, but can technology help us build strong communities that wouldn’t be possible offline?

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6. The cheat code to hosting a memorable party with Nick Gray

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Nick and I talk about the secret tactics that novice and experienced hosts use to put together incredible parties, how to keep the momentum going in a party, how to reject someone you don’t want to hang out with, and the world’s best icebreaker question. Nick is the bestselling author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party, a step-by-step guide to easy-to-host parties to help you build relationships with regular gatherings.

5. How to help thousands of people have deep conversations with Ashley Kirsner

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Ashley and I talk about embracing your inner cringe, ways to calm down your nervous system, structures for great social interactions, how to ask good questions, and a philosophy for having fun. Ashley is the founder of Skip The Small Talk, a research-informed curated social experience with regular events across 8 major cities in the U.S. helping thousands of people connect over deep conversations.

4. Starting a social networking app from scratch with Julian Ilson

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Julian and I talk about friendships of context, how to seed a social networking app, why one friend is always closing, how to discourage ghosting, and plucking your best friend out of the parallel universe. Check out Julian’s startup at

3. Scaling a community to 1,000 members in a year with Emily Fang

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Emily and I talk about strategies to become Internet famous, building a DAO, dealing with haters, how to avoid being commoditized online, why I’ll never be cool, and how scale requires 1:1 effort. Emily is the co-founder of Asian Wander Women (with Ivy Xu) and its eponymous venture studio DAO which has grown to 1,000 members in just over a year.

2. Your unique strengths as an event host with Solon Teal

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Solon and I talk about how to create true-to-yourself gatherings in the online world that make people go “wow”, why some people are open and others are closed, how communities are both selfish and selfless, loneliness and novelty in the internet age, how not to be a relationship freeloader, the future of diversity of thought in online spaces, and so much more. Check out Solon’s startup at

1. The beginning with Jessica Fan

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Jess and I talk about what it means to have friendships in the 21st century, why octopuses are the best animal to model communities, the cycle of emotions, the garden of relationships, and how to make online gatherings so good that people prefer them to the in-person version.